Marriage Readiness Checklist – 18 Questions to Ask

May 4, 2018

Congratulations. You are in a fantastic relationship and you are ready for a lifetime commitment.

But, are you really?

Here’s a list of 18 Marriage Readiness questions to ask yourself, and each other. The questions are about your relationship, and also the practicalities of marriage. (By the way, these are just a starting place!)

  1. Are You Ready to Get Married? Is this Truly the Right Time?
  2. What Are Your Reasons for Wanting to Get Married?
  3. Is this Truly the Right Person for You? Have You Gathered Enough Information about You as a Couple in Different Circumstances of Life?
  4. Have You Resolved Your Individual and Joint Past “Issues”?
  5. What are Your Expectations of Marriage? What do you Think It Will Provide That You Don’t Already Have? What are the Trade-Offs?
  6. What Are You Willing to Sacrifice to Make This Marriage Work?
  7. Are You On the Same Page for Having Children? How Many? What are Your Parenting Come-Froms?
  8. What are Our Expectations about How Children will Impact Our Lives and Relationship?
  9. Is the Woman Going to Change Her Name? Does the Man Have the Final Word on Decisions?
  10. Do You Have a History of Positive Thoughts and Observations About Marriage?
  11. Are you Ready to be a “We” Instead of an “I”?
  12. What are Your Expectations in Terms of Focus on Yourself, and Focus on Your Partner?
  13. What About Finances? Will You Combine Bank Accounts?
  14. How Will Individual Debt be Handled?
  15. How Will You Pay for the Wedding?
  16. What Are Your Expectations about Your Sex Life?
  17. What Are Your Expectations about Your Daily Life? Chores? Career?
  18. Have we Consulted an Expert and have Confidence that We Are Ready to Make the Biggest Decision of Our Lives?

If you want help working through the questions, discussing your answers, and making sure your interests are in alignment, contact Coach Turner for a Free Consultation!