When it comes to your actual marriage, shouldn’t the vows be core? And, shouldn’t they be a major highlight of your wedding ceremony itself?
Here are 5 secrets you absolutely must consider when creating your wedding vows for your special day.
Keep it Real
Your relationship is a whole bunch of wonderful things, and it is also a bunch of wonderful challenges. The best marriages are founded on continuous, strong choices to stay together and make things work, even in the face of challenges, not just about fairy tale feelings. So include an example or two that shows your commitment and that you are choosing each other.
It’s About the Vows!
Your vows aren’t just sweet love letters, they are solemn promises. So, be sure to make some promises! Some of them may be serious, very important things, and there may be a few light-hearted but true items as well.
Practice in Front of a Friend
Practice your vows in front of trusted confidants to get advice on your pacing, intonation, pauses, exact wording, etc. What made perfect sense to you when writing may not always translate when read aloud. You want your vows to be impactful, meaningful and moving.
Honor the Words with the Paper
Once you have your vows be sure to write them on crisp, fresh linen paper or card stock so that they look beautiful and convey respect and reverence for the moment, your wedding, and your partner.
Get Help from a Professional
A wedding officiant that is also a certified relationship coach, such as Rev. Coach Turner can help you discover the core values of your relationship that can go into vows that are truly meaningful and essential to you and your partner.
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